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(June 5) — Women in Saudi Arabia should give their breast milk to male colleagues and acquaintances in order to avoid breaking strict Islamic law forbidding mixing between the sexes, two powerful Saudi clerics have said. They are at odds, however, over precisely how the milk should be conveyed.
A fatwa issued recently about adult breast-feeding to establish “maternal relations” and preclude the possibility of sexual contact has resulted in a week’s worth of newspaper headlines in Saudi Arabia. Some have found the debate so bizarre that they’re calling for stricter regulations about how and when fatwas should be issued.
Sheikh Al Obeikan, an adviser to the royal court and consultant to the Ministry of Justice, set off a firestorm of controversy recently when he said on TV that women who come into regular contact with men who aren’t related to them ought to give them their breast milk so they will be considered relatives.
“The man should take the milk, but not directly from the breast of the woman,” Al Obeikan said, according to Gulf News. “He should drink it and then becomes a relative of the family, a fact that allows him to come in contact with the women without breaking Islam’s rules about mixing.”
Obeikan said the fatwa applied to men who live in the same house or come into contact with women on a regular basis, except for drivers.
Al Obeikan, who made the statement after being asked on TV about a 2007 fatwa issued by an Egyptian scholar about adult breast-feeding, said that the breast milk ought to be pumped out and given to men in a glass.
But his remarks were followed by an announcement by another high-profile sheik, Abi Ishaq Al Huwaini, who said that men should suckle the breast milk directly from a woman’s breast.
Shortly after the two sheiks weighed in on the matter, a bus driver in the country’s Eastern Region reportedly told one of the female teachers whom he drives regularly that he wanted to suckle milk from her breast. The teacher has threaten to file a lawsuit against him.
The fatwa stems from the tenets of the strict Wahhabi version of Islam that governs modern Saudi Arabia and forbids women from mixing with men who are not relatives. They are also not allowed to vote, drive or even leave the country without the consent of a male “guardian.”
Under Islamic law, women are encouraged to breast-feed their children until the age of 2. It is not uncommon for sisters, for example, to breast-feed their nephews so they and their daughters will not have to cover their faces in front of them later in life. The custom is called being a “breast milk sibling.”
But under Islamic law, breast milk siblings have to be breastfed before the age of 2 in five “fulfilling” sessions. Islam prohibits sexual relations between a man and any woman who breastfed him in infancy. They are then allowed to be alone together when the man is an adult because he is not considered a potential mate.
“The whole issue just shows how clueless men are,” blogger Eman Al Nafjan wrote on her website. “All this back and forth between sheiks and not one bothers to ask a woman if it’s logical, let alone possible to breastfeed a grown man five fulfilling breast milk meals.
“Moreover, the thought of a huge hairy face at a woman’s breast does not evoke motherly or even brotherly feelings. It could go from the grotesque to the erotic but definitely not maternal.”
Al Nafjan said many in the country were appalled by the fatwa.
“We have many important issues that need discussing,” Al Nafjan told AOL News Friday. “It’s ridiculous to spend time talking about adult breast-feeding.”
Unlawful mixing between the sexes is taken very seriously in Saudi Arabia. In March 2009, a 75-year-old Syrian widow, Khamisa Mohammed Sawadi, living in the city of Al-Chamil, was given 40 lashes and sentenced to six months in prison after the religious police learned that two men who were not related to her were in her house, delivering bread to her.
One of the two men found in her house, Fahd, told the police that Sawadi breast-fed him as a baby so he was considered a son and had a right to be there. But in a later court ruling, a judge said it could not be proved that Fahd was her “breast milk son.” Fahd was sentenced to four months in prison and 40 lashes, and the man who accompanied him got six months and 60 lashes.
The original adult breast-feeding fatwa was issued three years ago by an Egyptian scholar at Egypt’s al-Azhar University, considered Sunni Islam’s top university. Ezzat Attiya was expelled from the university after advocating breast-feeding of men as a way to circumnavigate segregation of the sexes in Egypt.
A year ago, Attiya was reinstated to his post.
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হ্যাঁ ভাই, খবরটি পড়েছি।
এও পড়লাম যে, সহীহ মুসলিমের অষ্টম কিতাব (কিতাব আল-নিকাহ)এর ৩৪২৫ নম্বর হাদিস নাকি এই ফতোয়ার উত্স। আমি ৩৪২৪ থেকে ৩৪৩১ পর্যন্ত হাদিসগুলো দেখলাম। খুব বিব্রত হয়েছি।
তবে ৩৪২৯ এ কিন্তু ঐ তত্ত্ব সম্পর্কে উম্মুল মুমেনিনদের আপত্তির কথাও আছে।
হাদিসগুলো এখানে পাবেন
এ সম্পর্কে কোনও ইসলামী বিশেষজ্ঞের মত জানতে পারলে অনুগ্রহ করে আমাদের জানাবেন।
@মুসলিম,
নিজের ই ভাই, ইয়া নাফসি ইয়া নাফছি, লাগছে, বেশী বেশী দুয়া দুরুদ পরুন, আল্লাহ পাক ই বলতে পারেন ভবিষতে কি হবে।
আপনাদের অবগতির জন্য এখানে বিষয়টি নিয়ে একটি সিরিয়াল লেখা দেয়া হল । সবাইকে পড়ার অনুরোধ রইল
।
দুধ ভাই-বোনের বিষয়টাতো ছোটবেলায় (দু’বছর বয়স) দুধপানের ক্ষেত্রেই সীমাবদ্ধ বলে জানতাম। এখন একী বিদঘুটে ফতোয়া শুনলামরে ভাই!!! মিশরে প্রথম যিনি এরকম ফতোয়া দিয়েছিলেন, তিনি কিন্তু ক্ষমাপ্রার্থনা করে তার মন্তব্য প্রত্যাহার করে নিয়েছিলেন। সৌদির খবরটা নতুন, আল্লাহই জানে এই ফতোয়ার পরিণতি কী দাঁড়ায় !
আবার ৩৪৩০ হাদিসটাও দেখুন। দুধ ভাই-বোনের বিষয়টা রাসুল (সা.) কিন্তু ক্ষুধার সাথে সম্পর্কিত করে দিয়েছেন। তাহলে ৩৪২৫ কিছুতেই সার্বজনীন বলে ধরে নেয়া যায়না।
আল্লাহ তুমি ইসলামকে আমাদের চোখে সুন্দর করে দেখাও !
@মুসলিম,
ইসলাম সুন্দর ই আছে, কিন্তু আমরা মনে হয় গোনাহ করতে করতে এমন পর্যায়ে পৌছিগেছি যে, সব গন্ডোগোল পাকায় ফেলছি।
ফুয়াদ ভাই, এই ফতোয়াটা পড়ে দেখেন, একটু শান্তি পাওয়া যাবে। যা ভাবছিলাম তাই। ঐ বিধান সার্বজনীন নয়। গর্দভ ফতোয়াবাজদের আল্লাহ হেদায়াত করুন।
Question:
I have come across several authentic hadiths about breast-feeding adults, and I was hoping that you can help me to fully understand the meaning.
`A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) reported that Sahla bint Suhail came to Allah’s Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said, “Messenger of Allah, I see on the face of Abu Hudhayfah [her husband] (signs of disgust) on the entrance of Salim (who is a servant) into (our house).” Whereupon Allah’s Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Breast-feed him.” She said, “How can I breast-feed him, as he is an adult man?” Allah’s Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) smiled and said, “I already know that he is a young man.”
I also read authentic stories that `A’ishah, the Mother of the Believers, took the above hadith as a precedent for whatever men she wanted to be able to come to see her. The rest of the wives of the Prophet refused to let anyone come in to them by such nursing.
Some people are attacking Islam and are saying horrible things about `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) based on the above hadith, and they claim that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) would never allow a shameful act of a woman breast-feeding an adult. They also reject the claim that Sahla didn’t physically breast-feed Salim but that he drank her milk from a cup by saying there’s no authentic proof for drinking from a cup and Muslims interpret things whichever way they want to avoid controversy. I realize that the above are misconceptions to raise doubts about Islam, but I honestly don’t have access to any authentic information to explain this hadith. Can you help me understand the meaning and significance of the above hadith and clarify any misconceptions about it?
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Thanks for your good question, and we hope our efforts, which are purely done for Allah’s sake, yield their desired fruits and meet your expectations.
The case referred to in the hadith is a specific one, and it can’t be generalized. Scholars agree that the hadith itself is sound, but they reject `A’ishah’s interpretation of it. Furthermore, upon brief reflection one would realize that any claims that `A’ishah breast-fed men so that they could visit her were obviously calumnies. She did not have any children and, therefore, had no milk.
Responding to the question, Dr. Marawan Shahin, professor of Hadith and its sciences, Faculty of Usul Ad-Din (Theology), Al-Azhar University, states the following:
It should be noted that the story of breast-feeding Salim is well proven in many authentic narrations. The majority of Muslim scholars agreed that it is only a particular concession concerning the nursing of Salim alone. They do not consider it a general ruling that applies to the whole Ummah. Salim was an adopted son to Hudhayfah, who dealt with him as a son. When the verses regarding the prohibition of adoption were revealed, Sahla bint Suhayl (wife of Abu Hudhayfah) was ordered to give Salim five drinks of her milk and in this way he (Salim) would be considered her son by nursing.
Here, it should be noted that Salim did not suckle milk from her breast directly. The milk was taken from her and then given to him. The majority of the Companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and Muslim scholars agreed that it is only a particular concession concerning the nursing of Salim alone.
The majority of the Companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) including all wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) rejected the opinion of `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) and considered the issue as only a particular concession concerning the nursing of Salim alone. They do not consider it a general ruling that applies to the whole Ummah. As for the opinion of `A’ishah, she considered the matter as a general ruling that can be applied to other cases. But her opinion is rejected by the majority of Muslim scholars, including the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).
Also, it should be noted that `A’ishah did not breast-feed any grown men, nor did she give any of her milk to anyone, nor did any of the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). The hadith states, “She took that as a precedent for whatever men she wanted to be able to come to see her. She ordered her sister, Umm Kulthum bint Abu Bakr and the daughters of her brother to apply the same ruling.”
It is clear from the above-mentioned statement that she did not give her milk to anyone and it should be noted that she had no children [and, therefore, had no milk].
Having stated the above, we say that the hadith is authentic and the opinion of `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) is rejected by the majority of the Muslim scholars, as the most correct view is that of the majority of Muslim scholars considering the issue as a particular concession to Salim alone.
Moreover, Sheikh Muhammad Iqbal Nadvi, Imam of Calgary Mosque, Alberta, Canada, and former professor at King Saud University, Riyad, Saudi Arabia, adds:
It is an exceptional situation and exceptional solution for the problem mentioned in the hadith. This is the reason why our scholars are in unanimity not to apply it in general situations. The general rule is that nursing and breast-feeding affects the relation only when it is only done before [the one so fed] two years old.
সূত্র: এখানে
ইসলামের উপর প্রশ্নোত্তরের জন্য পৃথিবীর সবচেয়ে বড় ডাটা-বেস Islam Q&A-থেকে একটা সংশ্লিষ্ট ফতোয়া তুলে দিলাম, যা কি না এখানে সরাসরি দেখতে পাবেন:
http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/47721
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Fatwa no.47721
Question:
Is it permissible for a man to suck on his wife’s breasts during intercourse?.
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
The husband may enjoy intimacy with his wife in whatever way he wishes; the only thing that is forbidden is anal intercourse and intercourse during the wife’s menstrual period or nifaas (post-partum bleeding). Apart from that, he may enjoy his wife in whatever way he wants, such as kissing, touching, looking, etc.
Even if he sucks on her nipples, this comes under the heading of the intimacy that is permissible, and it cannot be said that the milk has any effect on him, because if an adult breastfeeds, it does not have any effect of making him a mahram. Rather the breastfeeding that has this effect is that which takes place during the first two years of life.
The scholars of the Standing Committee said:
It is permissible for a husband to enjoy all of his wife’s body, apart from the back passage and intercourse during the wife’s menstrual period or nifaas (post-partum bleeding), or when in ihraam for Hajj or ‘Umrah, until he has exited ihraam completely.
Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz, Shaykh ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Qa’ood.
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 19/351, 352.
The scholars of the Standing Committee said:
It is permissible for the husband to suck his wife’s breasts, and if any milk reaches his stomach it does not have the effect of making him a mahram.
Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz, Shaykh ‘Abd al-Razzaaq ‘Afeefi, Shaykh ‘Abd-Allaah al-Ghadyaan, Shaykh ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Qa’ood.
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen said:
Breastfeeding by an adult does not have the effect of making him a mahram, because the breastfeeding that has that effect is five breastfeedings or more within the first two years of life before weaning. Breastfeeding by an adult does not have that effect. Based on this, if we assume that someone breastfed from his wife or drank her milk, he cannot become a son to her.
Fataawa Islamiyyah, 3/338.
With regard to it being permissible to enjoy anything concerning which there is no prohibition, there follow some of the views of the scholars:
Ibn Qudaamah said:
There is nothing wrong with enjoying the area between the buttocks without any penetration, because what is forbidden is the back passage, which is mentioned specifically, which is forbidden because of the filth, and that is specific to the back passage, therefore it expressly forbidden.
Al-Mughni, 7/226.
Al-Kasaani said:
Among the saheeh rulings on marriage is that it is permissible to look at and touch every part of her from head to foot when she is alive, because intercourse goes beyond looking and touching, so it is more appropriate that touching and looking should be permitted.
Badaa’i’ al-Sanaa’i’, 2/231
Ibn ‘Aabideen said:
Abu Yoosuf asked Abu Haneefah about a man who touches his wife’s private part and she touches his to stimulate arousal – did he see anything wrong with that? He said: No, and I hope that the reward will be greater.
Radd al-Muhtaar, 6/367.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) stated that this is permissible when he forbade intercourse in the vagina with a menstruating woman, but he permitted all other parts of her body. So it is more obvious that it is permissible at times other than menstruation.
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
The words “He may enjoy everything else of her apart from that” means that the man may enjoy every part of the menstruating woman apart from the vagina.
It is permissible to enjoy what is above and below the waist wrapper (izaar), but the woman should be wrapped in a waist wrapper, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to tell ‘Aa’ishah to wrap herself in a waist-wrapper when she was menstruating, then he would be intimate with her. He told her to do that lest he saw something that he disliked, namely the menstrual blood. But if the husband wants to enjoy the area between the thighs, for example, there is nothing wrong with that.
If it is said: What do you say about the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when he was asked what part of his wife is permissible for a man when she is menstruating and he said, “You have that which is above the waist-wrapper” and this indicates that one may only enjoy that which is above the waist-wrapper?
The answer is as follows:
1 – That is in order to be on the safe side and to avoid that which is forbidden.
2 – It may vary according to circumstances. The words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), “Do everything apart from intercourse” may be taken as being addressed to one who can control himself, and the words, “You have that which is above the waist-wrapper” may be taken as being addressed to one who cannot control himself, either because his religious commitment is too weak or his desire is too strong.
Al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 1/417.
And Allaah knows best.
Islam Q&A
@মুসলিম৫৫,
because if an adult breastfeeds, it does not have any effect of making him a mahram. Rather the breastfeeding that has this effect is that which takes place during the first two years of life.
এই মতামত টিকেই সঠিক বলে মনে হচ্ছে। আমার মনে হচ্ছে, ইসলাম নিয়ে কি আমরা বেশী বাড়াবাড়ি শুরু করলাম নাকি, ঠিক বুঝতে পারতেছি না। আল্লাহ পাক আমাদের ক্ষমা করুন। আমাদের অন্যায় আর গোনাহ এর শাস্তি হিসাবেও এসব আসতে পারে। আল্লাহ পাক আমাদের মাফ করুন।
@মুসলিম৫৫,
এই বিষয়টি দেখেন In March 2009, a 75-year-old Syrian widow, Khamisa Mohammed Sawadi, living in the city of Al-Chamil, was given 40 lashes and sentenced to six months in prison after the religious police learned that two men who were not related to her were in her house, delivering bread to her.
৭৫ বছর বয়সের এক বিধবা মহিলাকে ৪০ দোরা মারা হয়েছে ছয় মাসের জেল দেওয়া হয়েছে, মাত্র কেউ এসে তাকে রুটি দিয়ে যায় বলে। এটা তারা কিসের ভিত্তিতে দিলেন, তাও ঠিক বুঝতে পারতেছি না। দুয়া-দরুদ পড়া ছাড়া আমাদের তেমন কিছু করার নেই। আল্লাহ পাক আমাদের মাফ করুন।
সরকারে মদদপুস্ট ননী-মাখন ভুক্ত এমন দুনিয়াদার আলেমদের ফতোয়া নতুন কিছু নয় ।
নীচের ফতোয়াটা দেখুন : ( এটা শুধুমাত্র বিবাহিত স্বামী স্ত্রীর ক্ষেত্রে , অবিবাহিত দের ক্ষেত্রে সম্পূর্ন হারাম )
http://www.askimam.org/fatwa/fatwa.php?askid=a30fb1dfe6c85050521549b2e50cb7f
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatoh
The husband does not become haram upon the wife by taking in the milk of the wife. However, it is a great sin for the husband to take in the milk of his wife.
مص رجل ثدي زوجته لم تحرم .
(ولم يبح الارضاع بعد مدته) لانه جزء آدمي والانتفاع به لغير ضرورة حرام على الصحيح.
(Dur-ul-Mukhtar Ma’a Hashiyah Raddul Muhtar Vol.3 Pgs.211 & 225 – H.M. Sa’eed Company)
Kifaytul Mufti Vol.5 Pg.166 – Maktabah Haqqaniyah
Fatawa Mahmoodiyah Vol.18 Pg.624 – Jamia’ Farooqiyah
It is true that the wife should try to please the husband as much as she can, but this does not allow her to break the rules of Shariah. Therefore, you should try your best to explain to your husband that it is sinful to take in the milk, and make him understand that he should fear Allah and not cross the borders of Shariah in fulfilling his desires.
However, if he still does not understand and insists on doing this action, and further denial could lead to the breaking of the marriage, then you should allow him to do as he pleases and he will be held responsible for his sins. Your duty now will be to save the marriage as far as possible.
And Allah knows best
Wassalam
Ml. Abu Yahya,
Student Darul Iftaa
Checked and Approved by:
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah In’aamiyyah
@হাফিজ,
আমার অ তাই মনে হয়েছিল, তারপর মুসলিম ৫৫ ভাইয়ের ফতোয়ায় দেখেন এই কথা লিখা আছে because if an adult breastfeeds, it does not have any effect of making him a mahram. Rather the breastfeeding that has this effect is that which takes place during the first two years of life.
@ফুয়াদ, Islam Q&A-এর ফতোয়া যা বলছে তা হচ্ছে এই যে, কোন শিশুর ২ বছর পার হয়ে গেলে (অর্থাৎ ২ এর চেয়ে বেশী যাই হোক না কেন) তাকে কোন ভাবে একজন মহিলার দুধ খাইয়ে “দুধ-মা ও দুধ-সন্তানের” সম্পর্ক গড়ে তোলা যাবে না – অর্থাৎ তাকে মাহরাম (যার সাথে কখনো কারো বৈবাহিক সম্পর্ক হবে না) এমন status দিয়ে [ফন্দি করে] তার সাথে অবাধ মেলামেশা করা যাবে না। আবার স্বামীর বেলায়ও কখনো মুখে accidentally or otherwise দুধ গেলেই “স্বামী ছেলে সম্পর্কীয় হয়ে যাবে না” বা “বিয়ে ভেঙ্গে যাবে না”। জাহিলী যুগে আরবরা স্ত্রীকে মা ডেকে (যিহার) claim করতো যে তার বিয়ে ভেঙ্গে গেছে – এবং সেই ছুতায় সত্রীকে আর স্পর্শ করতো না ও তাকে ত্যাগ করতো। ইসলাম এসে তাও abolish করেছে। Islam Q&A-এর ফতোয়াটা মূলত “married couple” নিয়ে প্রশ্নের উত্তর বলে তারা এই লাইনেই concentrate করেছেন – কিন্তু এ থেকে আপনি যা জানতে চেয়েছেন তা বেরিয়ে এসেছে:
আশাকরি বুঝতে আর অসুবিধা হবে না ইনশা’আল্লাহ্!
@মুসলিম৫৫,
বুঝতে পেরেছি, কিন্তু আমি অন্য সমস্যা দেখতেছি, এভাবে চলতে থাকলে ভবিষতে আমরা কি ধরনের ফতোয়া পেতে পারি, এতেই তো ভয় করছে।